Celebrating

Hello World,

It’s funny how it can feel so hard to celebrate.

There are so many things that we’ve accomplished that maybe at one time at our lives we wouldn’t have even believed was possible. And yet, it’s now just a normal part of our history.

I know that’s how I felt about The Big Things like backpacking around the world by myself, or starting a business, or becoming part of a dance troupe or The Little Things like going dancing by myself, or dancing sober, or believing that I could be happy and single, or even learning how to say no.

At one point it seems IMPOSSIBLE.

And then when I did the impossible, I barely glanced at it, before finding the next impossible thing I could definitely not do.

Thereby perpetually keeping myself in a state of “you can’t do anything”.

What is ends up doing is making you feel pretty terrible in general, and on top of that pretty incapable as well.

I sometimes think that if I was a parent and my kid came up to me saying, “hey mommy, look, I was able to tie my shoe laces by myself!” and I said “yeah, yeah, yeah, but can you DRIVE A CAR?? Also look, that knot isn’t vert tidy”, it would be pretty ridiculous.

And yet this is the kind of conversation I used to have with myself:

Me: Oh, you were able to go backpacking, but is that really such a big deal? Shouldn’t you be focussing on getting paid more? Or have your own house…or…

Me: Yeah, but it was really scary and I never thought that…

Me: Yes, exactly, you never thought. You can’t do anything.

I know that so many people do this to themselves too because we never really learned to celebrate ourselves. Sometimes because we think that celebrating feels like sipping champagne while we throw rocks and sneer at the people who haven’t achieved what we have. Or we think that we need to keep being hard on ourselves or we will get lazy and not achieve anything else. Or we believe that it really isn’t a big deal.

Here’s what I want to offer: IT IS A BIG DEAL.

It’s the biggest deal. Because when you achieve things, you show other people that it’s worth it to take a moment and love yourself. Yes, you also give permission to other people to show self-love.

And also, you guys, it just feels AWESOME. It feels so good to acknowledge yourself. It makes you feel like you have your own back and it makes you believe that you are capable of things. Which makes you want to do and believe you can do more things.

What does celebration look like to you?

I would love to share more tips and tricks with you and help you create a more loving mindset.