How to keep appointments with yourself

We all have That Friend,

You know, the one we love,

But who at best is constantly late,

And at worst, flakes out and cancels on plans at the last minute (and always has an excuse).

We may make concessions, 

We may continue to try and reach out to them (we love them after all!),

but when we keep seeing the same behaviour,

we eventually give up,

and leave it up to them to make the next plan (not really believing that they will).

So the relationship sort of fizzles out.

The hangouts stop.

And it's not necessarily a problem: we do get to decide who we want in our lives.

But what happens when That Friend who cancels on you, is YOU?

Because, many of us do this to OURSELVES all the time:

We put something on our calendar,

And then decide at the last minute,

"Ah well, whatever, it's not a big deal to cancel this appointment. I can just do it later."

"It's fine, it's not that important anyways."

Maybe we try to keep making plans for a bit,

But after a while, just like with the friend, we may decide to give up on That Friend (us!)

And so we stop making plans for ourselves, we let the relationship with ourselves fizzle out, we stop showing up. 

It seems like a small thing to not follow through with things you plan for yourself,

but think about the message it sends to you:

that YOU'RE not a big deal, that YOU'RE not important.

And it's not true, because you are. 

You're the most important.

So how do we change this?

Think about how you show up to the things or friends you never cancel on - what do you do? what do you think about them? and what would it look like to intentionally and consciously treat your appointments with yourself that way?

Alana

PS: When we are trying to manage our time, we usually try to solve the wrong problem: maybe we tell ourselves we need to learn how to not be so lazy, or learn how to be more productive/organized/"better". But the way to manage time is to manage the relationship you have with yourself. Once you do, you will just get things done easily, without hustle or effort: effective time management becomes the by-product of the relationship you have with yourself.

Work with me and I will show you how to create that for yourself. Are you in?