Waiting for “the Right Time”
Hello World,
There’s this misconception out there that in order to do something we need to feel good about it first.
I’ll start working out when I don’t feel so tired.
I’ll start paying back my debt when I feel more stable.
I’ll start dating when I feel more confident.
I know that in my life I also waited for “the right time”, like there was a feeling that was supposed to flow down from the heavens, to let me know the moment had arrived.
“Ah, yes, NOW I can apply for that job / move out / start cooking / figure out what to do with my life…”
What I I figured out is that when I waited for this cue, what would usually happen is that action would only occur when the pain of my current situation exceeded the pain of inaction.
I waited until I was depressed before I looked at changing lifestyle.
I waited until there was a massive moth infestation before I moved out of a community house that I didn’t fit in.
I waited until I spent over 1000$ a month in takeout until I started cooking.
There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with this process,
It’s just that it takes a lot of time to get to the point of action.
And it also creates a lot of suffering,
A lot of settling,
And being passive in your own life.
I used this strategy for most of my life, and it was “fine”.
But we deserve and can achieve much better than fine,
And here’s how to do that:
It’s going back to that original belief that there is a right time,
And that it should feel good, i.e., you will “just know”.
What if that’s not true?
What if it doesn’t feels good, and that’s ok?
What if the “right time” is just deciding to do something because you want to, and being willing to accept that the decision comes at the cost of:
- the comfort of inaction, and,
- the comfort of avoiding rejection and failure.
What if the alternative to deciding was stagnation and always reacting rather than intentionally choosing the direction we want to go in?
Here’s a spoiler for you: you are so much more capable than you think.
If you have a hard time with decisions, I hear you and I’ve got you:
Check out my How to Make Decisions flowchart below:
And as always, if you need more in-depth support, I’m here: