How To Get Better At Things

Hello World,

I know for myself and many of my clients, there are things we want to do,

But we don’t go after them because we’re “just not good at them”.

My first belly dance class was just under three years ago.

I had always been interested and wanted to do it.

And I was so excited to start.

That first class…was brutal. 

And what I mean by that is…I was TERRIBLE.

I couldn’t keep up at all, I was so uncoordinated.

You guys, I literally had to go to the bathroom afterwards to cry. I’m talking about, full on sobbing — It was pretty dramatic haha.

I’m really glad that I paid for a term of classes before that class, otherwise I would have FOR SURE given up on my dream of learning,

And missed out on the thing I love the most in my life (aside from coaching!)

The fact that I paid for it was an external commitment that “made” me have to face my discomfort at being bad at things.

Because let’s be real, being bad at things SUCKS,

And the ability to be bad at things is a skill that most of us are not great at.

We somehow we kind of expect ourselves to be amazing at new right away.

And if we’re not,

Which is usually the case, 

We usually make it mean that there’s something WE are lacking, or that it’s not worth pursuing,

(Even though actually being bad at things when you start is normal.)

(And the standard of being amazing from the beginning is actually the problem.)

Which is kind of a shame because…

…then we give up on things we actually want to learn because we are not willing to feel bad in the learning of it.

So here what I want to offer:

The best way to NOT be bad at something is…

…to be bad at it.

…It’s to be bad at it for as long as it takes to learn how to be good at it.

In fact, how good you will become is proportional to your willingness to be bad at things.

Which is UNCOMFORTABLE.

If you’re willing to be uncomfortable, you can achieve anything.

I applied this to my dance practice, but you could also apply this to getting other things like: a relationship you want, or learning how to stop people pleasing, or fixing your relationship with time, or overcoming your perfectionism.

It’s all about your ability to feel discomfort on purpose.

You can do it, I believe in you.

And as always,

I’m here if you need me xx.