Surviving vs. Evolving

Hello World!

I spent most of my life just surviving. Easy to accept were the moments of joy, difficult to accept were the moments of sadness, the hardest to accept was just the comfortable stagnation. I felt like I was just going through the motions but not really getting anywhere. I knew there had to be something more but I didn’t know what it was or how to get there.

And then I realized the problem is that I thought I only wanted to experience positive emotions. But it wasn't true. Comfort feels good, it feels safe, but the price of that emotion was my life slipping away from me. The price of comfort was stagnation. I didn’t grow because I wasn’t willing to not feel comfortable.

When you could try something new and you have the choice between (A) the comfort of not doing it, and (B) the discomfort of rejection/fear/failure/humilation/andotherfunfriends when you do it, option A feels like the better choice. Life is a collection of small decisions, and if your brain keeps picking A, the result really is the choice between (A) stagnating or (B) growing, (A) surviving or (B) evolving.

I want to be more of a B myself! Here’s what that process can look like:

• Knowing what you want

• Allowing yourself to feel the fear of doing it

• Doing it anyways while feeling fear (rather than wait for the fear to leave first)

Result: you prove to yourself that you can do hard things, and you grow.

What if feeling uncomfortable on purpose was a skill that you could build? Imagine the life you could have if you allowed yourself to choose the discomfort of growth over the comfort of stagnation.

What is one thing you can do today to feel intentionally uncomfortable so you could grow?

If you want to grow into your best self and are not sure where to start, I would love to help you.